“With every experience, I learned more about what I did not want, and I am grateful that I never settled.”
Prior to meeting my great love, I went through many short and long-term relationships, break-ups and heartaches. I had a pattern of falling for someone quickly and deeply, and giving up parts of myself to be the most perfect girlfriend. I was like a relationship chameleon! But with every experience, I learned more about what I did not want, and I am grateful that I never settled.
I feared losing myself again. I feared being lied to again. I feared sharing so much of myself and then getting my heart broken again. I feared being abandoned yet again.
In May of 2019, after doing even more deep inner spiritual work, I got very clear about who I am on Earth to be, and very clear about the exact traits of my ideal partner. I knew that I needed an incredibly strong man – emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. I began making a list of all the traits and qualities that My King would have… and I added to this list as I thought of things. I noticed myself mentally going through my list as I would meet and interact with new men. I allowed myself to have fun and practiced being fully immersed in my own playful desires.
At the end of August 2019, I went to Florida to visit family. I didn’t realize that the dating app I was on [Bumble] automatically updated my location. When I landed, there were already 55 people who wanted to meet me! The number kept growing, but I was busy, so I didn’t pay much attention to it. When I had a few minutes here or there, I would swipe through people. I was flattered by all the attention I was getting, but no one really caught my eye. Until the day before I was leaving. I was swiping through, and then I saw HIM. It was like a knowing, as soon as I saw his face.
Then I read all that he had to say about himself, and I got more and more excited! I swiped right, and we were a match!! Then I had 24 hours to contact him. I waited. I waited until the next day, when the app said I had one hour left to message him, or our connection would be gone forever. I fought with myself! My brain kept telling me that it was stupid to message him when I didn’t live in the same state and I wouldn’t have time to meet him before I was flying out, and that he probably wouldn’t reply anyway. Then my intuition loudly said, “Message him or you will regret it! It does not matter that you don’t live here.” So I spent some time writing him a message that I felt really good about, and I hit the “send” button.
When I got back home to PA, I saw that he had replied – in paragraphs – and in one of them he had said that I “seemed to be the woman of his dreams!” We spent a few days texting and talking on the phone, and there was never an awkward moment; it was as if we had known each other for years already. I asked him one night if it was crazy for him to fly here for a long weekend, to attend a huge camping party with me that was coming up. He said it was his kind of crazy and yes, absolutely he would! The next day as we were talking, I asked if he had a reason to stay in Florida, and he said that he didn’t. I found myself saying that he could come and stay with me. Within an hour of that, he texted me a photo of the U-Haul he rented and said he would be here within two to three days! There was never any pressure, and no part of me was resistant; it felt magical!
“He has everything on my list – and more. I call him my “mail order husband” and am still in awe of how quickly the universe delivered him to me!”
Dante reached my doorstep at 4am on September 1st, 2019, with his motorcycle and belongings in the U-Haul, and his kitten in a crate in his hand. I’ll never forget looking into his eyes for the first time and how amazing it felt when he hugged me. My heart was pounding and I was immediately so attracted to him. I felt at home in his arms. And I still do. He is truly the most perfect partner for me! He has everything on my list – and more. I call him my “mail order husband” and am still in awe of how quickly the universe delivered him to me!
“We have both grown in the best of ways, and we continue to grow – together.”
We have been together every day and living together for 8 months now, and we plan to always be together. We make music together, we develop websites together, we go on outdoor adventures, we build things, we have similar ideas and dreams, and we talk a lot about our future and the life we want to create together. We are best friends. We have both grown in the best of ways, and we continue to grow, together.
It is safe for you to be strong, powerful, and self-sufficient – and to also be soft, well cared for, and nurtured. Your ability to receive love is directly related to how well you choose to love yourself. You can be your whole and complete self, at all times, and be completely loved as you are, at all times. The more you love yourself, the more self-confidence you will gain, and the more energy you will have for all aspects of your life. You know what you want and once you have clear vision, nothing can stop you!
“Your ability to receive love is directly related to how well you choose to love yourself.”
Diana, 38 | Pittsburgh, PA, US
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